This participant shares how she sees her multiple selves as her true selves, and that she’s not necessarily being dishonest about how she is. Others added another strategy is to tell our parents what we think they can take. That it’s okay for them to not know everything so long as you can survive. So, that can be in the form of having separate social media accounts where you can share what is safe for you.
What strategies do you use to negotiate with being authentic?
Participant Quote 5
This participant responded to another participant sharing how her mother still polices the way she dress. That sometimes it’s not even about religion or aurat, but about exerting control. Parents have a hard time letting go of the fact that their child is no longer a child.
Participant Quote 4
This participant talks about how as Muslim women, we have our agencies stripped from us after noting that we are often criticized from every aspect, from our behaviors, our way of thinking and most obviously on our physical appearance.
This is based on what the other participants cited about how a woman is criticized when she wears hijab and when she doesn't. When she beautifies herself and when she doesn't.
Participant Quote 3
This participant brought up how during her time, there was something called a part-time hijab, and that she was considered one as she struggled between wanting to wear it and not wearing it at times. Eventually, people told her that she can't wear it as and when she likes and some even called her a hypocrite.
This leads us to our question: Is there room for individuality as Muslim women?